Bad moods.
Sometimes when you're a bookkeeping business owner, they're impossible to avoid.
Anything negative can trigger them.
Maybe it's a client who doesn't pay you on time or you're dealing with an overwhelming rescue job that seems to be never ending.
But, as your blood pressure and frustration rise, don't worry, there are ways to calm you down without needing a doctor's prescription.
According to INC.com's, Amy Morin, here are five things that can change how you feel:
1. Distraction
The more you think upsetting thoughts, the worse you'll feel. So rather than rehash that mean thing your spouse said, or worry about that stressful meeting tomorrow, distract yourself with an activity. Listen to music, go for a walk, or do whatever you can to change the channel in your brain.
Studies show distraction is the most effective way to deal with intense distress. So if you're sitting in the dentist's office waiting to undergo a root canal, distract yourself with a magazine or text a friend about an unrelated topic. And try to find something to occupy your mind during the root canal too--distraction can be effective in reducing physical pain as well.
2. Reappraisal
Changing the way you look at a situation changes the way you feel. Telling yourself that your overly talkative friend is just in need of emotional support or reminding yourself that your co-worker's annoying questions stem from his desire to do his best, can help you stay calm.
Cognitive reappraisal is one of the quickest ways to shift your emotions. Research shows changing the way you think about a situation changes your body's physiological response. So your heart is less likely to race so fast when you're angry, and your palms might not sweat so much when you're nervous, which can be key to keeping intense emotions at bay.
3. Humour
Laughter creates changes in your brain and gives you a positive boost in mood right away. A good sense of humour has been linked to everything from improved physical health to a better social life.
Whether you crack a joke or your friend says something funny, good-natured humour is key to managing your emotions. Studies show mean-spirited humour is much less effective in changing your emotional state, however. So keep a great joke on hand or hang out with a funny friend and you'll boost your mood fast.
4. Temporal Distancing
Temporal distancing changes your mindset by helping you look at the bigger picture. To try it, think about the present from your future self. Imagine how much today's concern will matter one, five, and ten years from today.
Whether you're sad that you didn't get that promotion, or you're nervous about a big decision you have to make, those things might not matter much down the road. Studies show gaining proper perspective helps you stay calm--even in tough situations.
5. Situation Modification
If changing the way you think about a situation doesn't seem like a viable option, change the environment. An environmental change may involve a major modification, such as changing jobs or moving to a new city.
But, studies show it doesn't need to be a drastic change in order to be effective. Deciding to sit next to a positive co-worker instead of a negative one, or choosing to go for a walk during your lunch break instead of eating at your desk, might be all you need to boost your mood.
Thank you Amy for some great advice.
Yes, operating a bookkeeping business is not an easy task.
So many things can go haywire at any moment, but if you can keep the above bad mood altering actions in mind and implement a few, you'll find you will feel better.
It's just a matter of time.
To your success,
Michael
